Comments on: Being aware of how I am feeling

By: Cindy Chambers

Cindy Chambers — Thu, 03 May 2012 00:49:16 +0000

I love this post Mary. It is so real and honest. I think that’s what attracts me to your blog. No needless filler, just the truth. You had me on bathing suit. That in itself causes my knees to knock! Have a great time Mary. Keep us posted with your preparations. You really make me smile. Love, Cindy

By: Marian

Marian — Wed, 02 May 2012 20:57:59 +0000

Everyone’s posts above have said it all nicely…thank you for sharing your “yesterday” and how it all worked out in the end.
As I prepared yesterday to go out of town for a week, I too decided that I would do things differently…shower and get ready first, pack the suitcase and then, in whatever time remained before I had to leave the house, get other things done. I quickly became derailed by a call from my mother which lasted much longer than expected, then started my list backwards, ending with the shower. By then it was rush, rush, rush to get on the road. I am hoping for better luck next time!!!
I guess we all have things about ourselves we wish we could change, I know I have a list…LOL

By: Ken & Pam

Ken & Pam — Wed, 02 May 2012 02:17:59 +0000

Have a wonderful trip!!
Ken & Pam

By: Terri

Terri — Wed, 02 May 2012 01:45:32 +0000

You are the little engine that could!

By: nancee

nancee — Tue, 01 May 2012 21:57:41 +0000

How many of us have had that same conversation? Thanks for sharing that and for the new mantra!

By: Suzanne Tate

Suzanne Tate — Tue, 01 May 2012 20:56:10 +0000

You wrote my life story in a nutshell today, Mary. I am a hopeless control freak when it comes to ‘event-planning.’ I get my pad and pencils out and make my lists, even down to listing the to-do’s along with what day I will do each one. It is who I am, and God help anyone who doesn’t live up to whatever they promised they’d do.

My final solution to all this angst was to just decide that I WOULD have to do it all myself. If I involve no one, and if I know it’s all my ball game, I can sail forth, get it done and I will garner all the satisfaction. Everyone else will enjoy it too, as they will have been able to sit on their butts the whole time without hearing me screaming at them.

Works for me…may not work for you.

By: cheryl b. by-the-sea

cheryl b. by-the-sea — Tue, 01 May 2012 17:34:32 +0000

There are two rules in life: 1.) Don’t sweat the small stuff. 2.) It’s ALL small stuff!

How is it we always marry our polar opposites? I’m a terminal planner; my husband will be late for his own funeral. Go figure…..

By: Mary Rita Scott

Mary Rita Scott — Tue, 01 May 2012 17:30:43 +0000

Boy, can I relate to this one! I don’t bother with dinner guests anymore because of my preparation intensity. The last time I had a party on this property was Labor Day weekend of 2008. The next day, my husband, Ray, said how smoothly everthing went and how it was not much trouble. That is because I did everything: shopping, planning, inviting, organizing indoor and outdoor spaces and activities. It was like being the director and producer and star actor of a very-off-broadway play! Not fun for me.

By: Susan Alcantara

Susan Alcantara — Tue, 01 May 2012 15:20:38 +0000

I really loved the quotation you chose to accompany your ‘mini meltdown’ post Mary! And you do know we so appreciate your honestly in letting us peek in on your yesterday. Our son’s wedding is coming up on May 25th, a very small intimate outdoor wedding in Sedona, AZ and my husband is the one getting all into the ‘timing/details’ – after all, when you’ve been a conductor of symphony and opera, you’d better be good at the production end of things. But I try to keep reminding him, this is NOT a production in that sense. Sometimes the little slip-ups are what endears the couple to everyone, and it is not worth the stress to sweat every little detail. Like so many here, we women are managing most of our households every single day and that in itself is a production, not even mini!, so on special days like a wedding, I just want to enjoy every minute and not obsess weeks before about THE BIG DAY. And you’re so right Heather, we are not responsible for everyone else’s happiness. My mantra for today will be Thurber’s last line: Let us look around today in awareness. Let us not miss out on the beauty that is today.

By: Kathye

Kathye — Tue, 01 May 2012 13:35:47 +0000

Oh Charlotte, you make such a great point! I would not want my husband to absorb my worry, nor would I want him to wonder if it is all worth it! One of the many things I love about him is his calm, cool, steady approach to things…and I trust and count on that strength! It is part of our balance. I really appreciate your perspective! We love to travel too…I love your comment about the ‘journey to the journey’. Thanks for another AHA moment this morning!