A friend called the other day and asked me to come over for tea. She is usually super-busy during this pre-holiday season, so I was delighted to be meeting her in the middle of the week, and didn’t think anything unusual was going on, until I showed up at her house and she was on crutches.
I don’t feel at liberty to share specifics (about how she broke her ankle the day after I sprained mine) but as she told me the story of how it happened, I felt a laugh start to well-up inside. I just couldn’t help it. At one point (during my laughing fit) she said, “I am so happy that you are laughing about this!” I could tell that she meant it. She and I have spent much of our adult lives around colleagues who consider themselves to be “spiritual” and “healers” and yet so many lack levity and a sense of fun, having more of the attitude, God-forbid you laugh at something serious (and life is very serious), and don’t you dare laugh at me.
I believe it is a gift of being human to laugh, and yet it is amazing how many adults seem to lose the ability to laugh for fear of looking inappropriate. Just think of all the places and situations where we have been taught not to laugh: school, the doctor’s office, meditation, work, funerals, weddings, vigils, prayer, church…
Someone may get mad at you for laughing at their serious story, but if that laughter is real (not ironic or sarcastic) then trust it. You didn’t think it up, or create it, in that moment. You didn’t hope it would come. It just burst upon you without warning. How do you know that it isn’t bringing the true healing that’s really needed in the situation?
“When we’re true to ourselves, we become instruments of truth for the planet. Because we’re all connected, we touch the lives of everyone around us, who then affect others. Our only obligation is to be the love we are…Finally, I can’t stress enough how important it is to enjoy yourself and not take yourself or life too seriously. One of the biggest flaws with many traditional spiritual systems is that they often make us take life too seriously. Although you know that I abhor creating doctrines, if I ever had to create a set of tenets for a spiritual path to healing, number one on my list would be to make sure to laugh as often as possible throughout ever single day, and preferably laugh at myself. This would be hands down over and above any form of prayer, meditation, chanting, or diet reform.” Pg 185 from, Dying to Be Me, by Anita Moorjani