Doing “something” really well…pause…

appreciating the towels!

When Jack and I went to Costa Rica last year, one of the many things that we appreciated was the wonderful care taken, with even the smallest detail, at our hotel. We used to look forward to going back to our room to see what the women who cleaned and tidied it daily, would do with the towels. They were always adorned with fresh flowers and these new, creative creatures looked like happy little critters.

Sometimes, I can get really hard on myself for not doing everything “perfectly” everyday. I expect myself to make a beautiful home, cook great meals, always be available when someone needs me, be 100% patient 1oo% of the time, never have a negative thought, never get my feelings hurt, or become worried and afraid. If I am not aware of it, I can easily overlook the things that I do really well that day, and my life becomes a mad dash to the finish line…of what?…where am I going in such a rush during these times?  To the future where I believe that at some distant moment, I will find fulfillment. Eckhart Tolle talks about this, and says if an alien was dropped onto our planet and watched people on a city sidewalk he/she would think that we were insane, rushing here and there. (I do actually feel a little crazy when I am rushing).

When I slow down (primarily in my mind) and take time to do one thing well and then appreciate that…let that little thing, like making a really good cup of coffee or combing out Luke (our big shaggy dog) be enough for that moment, my entire self takes a deep breath and expands. One little thing done really well, and then a pause….taking time to smell the roses, or fold the towels, or appreciate that someone folded them for me….this is where I want to go.

9 thoughts on “Doing “something” really well…pause…”

  1. Thanks for taking the time to write this post …”one little thing done really well”.

  2. I want to go there too! As I get older I too want and even crave the “slowing down” of life. I’ve been so on the go all my life that now I love just being home and reading, tending to my roses, and cooking. I still am working outside of my home, but looking forward to the day I can be here more!
    FYI..I read your post vevery morning while eating my breakfast, a nice way to start my day.

  3. I’ve spent most of my life rushing around, mostly to avoid myself I think. Funny, I found myself rushing through your post, reading quickly and I have no place to be and nothing I have to do until 6pm (I’m essentially on vacation today) I came to a halt when I read when I saw the word “rush” I backed up and slowly reread. Thanks for the reminder, obviously I needed it.

    We have a towel doll from Disney, I like the photo of yours, she’s much more provocative!

  4. Thank you (again) for hitting the nail on the head. You have a way of making a point on the day I need it!

  5. When I saw the photo, I ambled slowly (no rush;) to the linen closet and began twisting towels like a teenager in gym class shower room! What fun and how creative–folding those monotonous squares will never be the same.
    And like Maria’s astute assessment, when I rush, it’s mostly to avoid some inner voice or feeling or perception of myself. My ‘slow-down’ mantra is usually: “May I meet this moment fully; may I meet it as a friend.”
    And, of course, when I read this blog, I always slowly savor the words and wisdom from so many wonderful people I’ve never met! Blessing one and all.

  6. What a needed reminder to be aware of what’s done well instead of what all needs done and isn’t. I often feel so overwhelmed by all that I “should” do on a day off work that I do nothing and then feel more frustrated, and guilty for “wasting” the time available. I don’t have time to tear into a whole room, say, but I could make the windows shine (if it ever stops raining here). It’s important to remember to be in the moment and savor it, which I often forget, and to refocus on what matters and what really doesn’t. Just recognizing the “job well done,” no matter how seemingly trivial, is a major shift in perspective. Today, a day off, I met out of state long time friends for breakfast and talk that mattered, wandered through a favorite greenhouse and purchased a few perennials using a birthday gift certificate, and I found the just right spots for them, hopefully, and planted in the rain, and enjoyed it thoroughly. So, yes, a good day off with moments well spent. Thank you again for another eloquent and very meaningful blog to read and reread.

  7. These are such wonderful reminders to enter the moment fully and to savor it. Sometimes we need persons in our lives to help us do that and today, my niece was that person. She paid me a surprise visit, brought me a beautiful plant and shared her evening with me. It has been an evening full of moments we will savor for a long time to come. Thank you for shedding a light of this simple practice that holds so much richness.

  8. Truly amazing! I actually missed this post yesterday, because of all my “rushing” to be all things to all people! You’re the best!

  9. Me, too, Terri! I just read this, after taking an afternoon to do just that – slow down and be present. I went shopping in Saratoga,where I’ve wanted to go since I got here, and purposely left my cell phone home. It felt good to get out of myself and be present with a new adventure – just that.
    Thanks, Mary!

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