A few people wrote, after the last blog, that trying new things is either not that interesting or possible at this point in their lives. By far the most powerful “new thing” that I have ever done, has been to change my mind; to think a new thought about an old/unpleasant situation. I really believe that we wouldn’t have to move a muscle, and we could completely transform ourselves, and our lives, by changing our minds.
The other day, I sat down to meditate and I heard Luke grab my shoe and take it into the other room to gnaw on. I felt the irritation rise up. I knew I should get up and get it but I really didn’t want to move, so I tried to quiet my mind. I kept repeating, “My life is flowing beautifully and everything is perfect.” As I repeated this, I could actually start to feel my body/emotions changing and calming down. My feelings also changed about the importance of a shoe.
I came out of meditation and found he didn’t have my shoe at all. He had grabbed a toy that was under my chair. This huge range of emotions; anger to peace, all happened in reaction to what I was thinking. How many times have I not questioned my mind when it tells me to be upset about something?! Sometimes, when I am faced with what my head is calling a “bad thing”, I will say either to myself, or out loud, “I wonder what good thing will come from this? I am really looking forward to seeing how this will turn out!”
There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them. Anthony de Mello