About 10 years ago, I was asked by a local church, to give a workshop to teenage girls on self-esteem. As the group of 5 girls assembled, it was obvious that their parents had made them come. They slouched down in their chairs and there was not a smile to be seen. Everything about their energy said, “I don’t want to be here.” I was feeling the same way as I looked at them.
I talked about finding your passion in life…no reaction from my gloomy little group. Then I told them a bit of my own story. Still no sign of life. Finally I said, “If you can think good thoughts, and get to the point where you can feel the energy of the thought growing inside, and then “release it”, this actually gives a “boost” to your energy field and makes you more attractive”. I had their attention. All of them had felt “invisible” and craved attention but had no conception that their thought life had anything to do with the way people were reacting (or not) to them.
None of them felt friendly toward their classmates and they were all extremely self-critical. They were sending out negative, unfriendly thoughts while hoping to get “friendly attention” and it was not working. I started to tell them about the energy of thoughts to attract (or repel), and they were genuinely interested…. had never thought of this before. We played some energy games, I showed them what their energy felt and looked like, when I first saw them. They started to get it. They also started looking better and they noticed this too.
I had initially asked them what they thought made girls attractive they said; being thin, having nice clothes and hair…have we changed that much?! How many times do we think, “I have a party or high school reunion this summer, I wonder how many good thoughts I can think, between now and then, about both myself, my former classmates, and the other people who will be there?”
So many times we think thoughts more like, “I have to lose weight, do something with my hair, find an outfit that looks decent…” Still focusing on the “outer” in hopes of feeling better inside, and yet we all know that these are not the things that make us attractive or memorable or happy. If you want to dive more into the power of thought and are up for the most intense mental workout this summer, a really great resource is “The Seven Day Mental Diet” by Emmet Fox (first published in 1935).
Generating good thoughts on purpose creates a powerful energy that even changes the way we look….. And it is free and you can still eat ice cream!
“A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.” Roald Dahl