The only thing that I knew, when Wonder first came to us was that if we found a new home for him, it would have to be a good one. One morning, while he was still living in our garage, and had not let me touch him, Jack said, “I am really falling for her (we still thought that he was a she). If we don’t keep her, we’ll have to get fingerprints of the new owners!” I laughed thinking about how far Jack had come regarding cats. When I first met him, he had 2 big dogs and liked cats but never dreamed that he’d be living with 6 of them and that he would be the one making a case for 7! I took my coffee and went to my computer and there was the email from Patty saying that she wanted Wonder. I yelled to Jack, “You won’t need finger prints!”
Wonder’s new home was better than what we could have provided. Patty and Mark did research on how to socialize a feral kitten. They did not treat him like a kitten who had been socialized, but they held to their vision that he would be….some day. They patiently worked with his fear of humans until …well, the photograph says it all! They conquered his fear with love, with patience; with vision of what they knew was possible. How many times, when we see something that we don’t like about ourselves, do we take this approach? So often we think that we can change ourselves by harsh reprimand, disgust, and self-hatred. These approaches do not work. We just cannot hate ourselves into becoming more loving, open and peaceful. Let’s give ourselves a break and acknowledge right now how far we have come. Give yourself a big hug and a smile instead of a whack and a frown!
“Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself“. St. Francis De Sales