Relaxing into being

Chakra and Noah napping

Our cat Chakra lived to be almost 21 years old. She was a tiny cat, only weighing about 5 lbs, but she was such a fighter. She loved humans but attacked any animal that came near her, for almost all of her life. It was as if she was always looking around, thinking something was going to get her. The year she turned 19, she changed;  became neutral toward our other animals and seemed not notice them at all. Then one day, a few months before she died, Jack saw her sleeping on Noah’s side (on our old pink chair) and he took this photograph (which he just had framed and gave to me for my 56th birthday).

Noah was around for the last 5 years of her life and yet she didn’t realize what a great pillow/pal he could be until the end. I love this about Noah. When Chakra changed, and stopped attacking him, he didn’t say, “Hey, you have been terrible to me for all of these years, don’t think that I’m going to let you off the hook so easily, now that you want to be friends!” When she was ready to change, he was there to enjoy the new her…such a great lesson.

Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.” Chinese Proverb

21 thoughts on “Relaxing into being”

  1. What a sweet, sweet gift from Jack and a sweet, sweet picture! It is so nice to see Chakra again. There is a message of quiet forgiveness here, too, on both sides. Thanks for these lovely reminders that our pets often share with us.

  2. I ADORE THIS POST!!! Thank you, Mary. Ah, the lessons we learn from the gentle ones around us! This is a dynamite one. What a world we would be in for all of us to be able to react naturally in this way. Thank you for the vivid reminder of a good way to touch another in our lives.

    Also, I wanted to thank everyone for the warm thoughts towards my sister and her recovery. This site really is a peaceful part of my day. You are all such caring and inspiring ladies!
    Now go have a wild one!!

  3. Thanks so much for sharing Chakra and Noah’s picture and story. So sweet and a very compelling lesson. It’s is so easy to hold grudges, stay defensive, and, from yesterday’s post, not let go. This lesson from Chakra and Noah will stay with me as I picture them peacefully sleeping together…never too old to change and accept.

  4. Ditto to the comments above! and, a heartfelt thank you from me. I couldn’t have commented on your post better myself, and am evermore in awe of the lessons you share from our four legged friends.
    From Fran

  5. Isn’t it amazing when you see that change from fear or hostility to acceptance and friendship? I’ll never forget when our old cat Sophie discovered that Barney – a big clown-of-a-lab – was a comfy warm stove. Barney wouldn’t dare move when Sophie climbed on top of him….

  6. Love the image and the message. I’ve learned a lot from my furry pals too. I think Jack is a very special fellow.

  7. What a wonderful example of meeting someone where they’re at. Chakra was ready to let down her guard and Noah was a willing recipient. I am amazed quite often at what my animal friends have to teach in this world of excesses and divisive thinking. I am so grateful for the gifts they bring into my life. Have a wonder filled day ladies.

  8. Recently caring for a little eight year old boy, I marveled at how so in the moment young children live with their emotions. We were driving to my son’s house with my son’s big black Lab, Bear, who Jacob adores – both boy and dog safely in the backseat. When we got to my son’s house, Bear scrambled excitedly to get out the door and to his master but in the process his big paws bounded over Jacob and between the weight of a 75 pound lab and the paws that scratched him but didn’t mean to, Jacob broke out into the most heart wrenching cry, big crocodile tears! As I hurried back to comfort him, he suddenly turned off the geiser of tears, because he had brought his Mommy a bouquet of flowers, and with one big sniff, said he didn’t want his Mommy to see him with tears. I thought, wow! just to be able to let it all go like a little kid, have yourself a good cry, erupt with zest! and then like the sun coming out behind the clouds, be on with life and happiness. Noah’s sweet acceptance of Chakra in the moment, without a passing glace to yesterday’s slights – ah, lovely lesson. And what a very thoughtful gift from Jack! When someone knows you so well to offer the perfect gift, that’s the best gift of all.

  9. Terri, you said that perfectly about acceptance. It’s not all about analyzing and then deciding on worthiness. What an absolutely wonderful gift the framed phot is, just so beautiful. Jack is one thoughtful guy, a keeper!

    My calico cat Delilah is one snotty and aloof little number and shy Miss Mousey adores her and Delilah is very tolerant of her snuggling up to her and even deigns to groom her head sometimes. It’s so sweet.

  10. Awwww. Even without the back story, the photo is worth a thousand words. With the story, it’s the wisdom of the universe: peace and hope.

  11. Loved this post, Mary. I also loved the Chinese Proverb. After 58 years I’m finally learning to stop trying to be who I think I should be, and relax into who I really am. Laura

  12. Just reread everything here, as I often do and wanted to say, I love being a part of this community and I have come to love all of you, treasures each and everyone of you. Blessings for a peaceful fall evening.

  13. What a lovely post. That’s a wonderfully thoughtful husband you have there. Growing and changing . Delightful.Great reminder for me about forgiveness. I’ve worked alot on this with a very skilled person. It’s never too late!
    Cindy Chambers

  14. Thanks for sharing this adorable photo. So interesting your cat lived so LONG! Wow Chakra had more than 9 lives. I have a small cat (about 5 lbs) that turns 10 this year. Hope I get 10 more with her! Love your photos and your stories. I look forward to reading your blog every day! thank you. Karen

  15. Wonderful post, Mary. What lessons we can take from our furry companions if we will but just open up.

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