When Jack and I had been married about 2 years, he came down with a whopper of a cold. He coughed for 3 days straight, 24/7…then I got it. Two days into my coughing fit, I suggested that we sleep in separated bedrooms so at least he could get a good night’s sleep. After about a week, we both had to admit that we were sleeping better in our own beds…own rooms. Since I was a little girl, I have had my own bedroom and always liked sleeping alone. I don’t even like sleeping with the cats, except Noah because that boy is like a rock…8 pm until 5 am, he doesn’t move (or snore) and he only takes up about a square foot of space!
I know that some people do not feel this way and I am not suggesting anything for anyone else. As a matter of fact, if you like sleeping with someone I would think that it must be good for your health too. But there is a belief that if you have separate bedrooms, you also have separate lives and a poor relationship, so most people who have them, hide it. Well, I am “outing” us. We have our own bedrooms (for sleeping), and we like it… (we still like each other quite a bit too!)
“The modern tradition of the marital bed only began with the industrial revolution, when people moving to overcrowded towns and cities found themselves short of living space. Before the Victorian era it was not uncommon for married couples to sleep apart“. (from an article by Dr. Mercola, Sharing your bed may be bad for your health Feb. 13, 2001)