One thing that I have come to see, both in myself and others, is when we are getting close to a breakthrough; when a new opening or opportunity is just about to come into our lives, this is often the time that we experience the feelings of being “attacked”, where inner or outer conflict and struggle can intensify.
What we do during this time (in thought, words and action), will determine if we go through the door, into the new life that we have been wanting to experience, or cave-in and turn away in anger or discouragement with thoughts like, “I’ve faced this same old scenario, same old struggle, 1000 times. It will never change. I will never change. I’ve tried it before and it doesn’t work.” There is the temptation to think that we are doing something wrong; that if we were “doing life correctly” we wouldn’t be experiencing these thoughts and feelings. We tend to forget, that every one of us is on the “Hero’s Journey”, which by definition involves struggle at times, overcoming, and advancement into new and higher levels of awareness and life experience.
I was in that space the other day. I could feel discouragement like a heavy blanket on me. I had the thought, “I don’t see how this is going to get better”, about a situation in my life. I went for a run and started asking for help. It is a curious thing that for all of the tools that I know, have used successfully, and taught others, I suddenly forget about, when I myself need them most.
Of course I couldn’t see how it could get better. We hardly ever see how things will work out. As I ran along, the thought, “You are at the door” came into my mind, followed by a sense of relief. This is the time to intensify positive affirmations, to focus on my desire, and not to entertain those low-energy thoughts. If I have faced a situation 1000 times before, and have had the same old negative thoughts/feelings about it, then of course it is going to turn out the same. Just the thought, “This won’t change.” is such a powerful affirmation for keeping life from changing. The past does not have to repeat itself.
As I picked up the pace on my run, I also started to say, “I am really in a great place. I have never been here before. Something great and new is about to happen. I am so ready. This is the best time in my life. I am so grateful to be here.” On and on, as I ran, I felt myself getting more optimistic, happier and lighter.
Imagine what you want your life to be. Today is a new day. Think a new and a happier thought and hold that thought for a minute. Then think it again and again.
“A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer“. Ralph Waldo Emerson