Many years ago, I did some temp work in a college bookstore. Everyday, the man who was head of security came in to buy a newspaper. He was one of the least friendly people I had ever met. The woman I was working with, told me that for all of the years she had worked there, she had never seen him smile. She was an open, friendly, funny person and so when I proposed a little experiment, she was up for it. I said, “I am going to imagine him smiling and being friendly.” She laughed.
Every morning, I imagined him as a happier man, and pictured him smiling. Instead of dreading him coming into the bookstore, I started looking forward to it because I knew that if I held that thought, eventually I would see what I imagined. About a week later, he came in to buy his paper, said, “Good morning” and smiled as he said thank you.
People are mirrors of us. My friend at the bookstore was not unfriendly, but she held a belief about him (within herself) that was unfriendly, based on how he had acted in the past. The more that I feel someone is not a nice person, the less I like them, and the less friendly I become around them. When I change my conception of the world, the world (and the people and things within it) must change too.
“Do not try to change people; they are only messengers telling you who you are. Revalue yourself, and they will confirm the change.” Neville Goddard