I grew up in a family that seemed to focus on what wasn’t there, what wasn’t right, what wasn’t good enough. There was never enough time, money, love, happiness. My parents rushed from the moment they got up in the morning until they went to bed at night, and we fell into that way of life too. No one sat down and gave anyone undivided attention. My parents were burdened by their children, burdened by the demands of their jobs, burdened by the world, and they dealt with this by always being busy and preoccupied. We learned not to ask for things for fear of being met with those exasperated eyes.
My parents still rush and still fear that there isn’t enough. Even though they are both in their 80’s, have plenty of money and don’t have anything that they must do. Before my mother even gets to an event, she is thinking about being back home. Back at home, she is wondering what she will do with all of her time. I find myself rushing too. Not so much in the outer world, but in my mind and I have been working to change this.
So what if I grew up in this kind of home? So what if much of society does this? If I want a quality of life that feels deep and rich and meaningful, I won’t find it in a rush. Rushing from one moment to the next is at best a bad habit, at worst a way to miss my life.
One of my plans for this weekend is to sit down and really read and absorb each comment that was posted yesterday. What about taking this weekend and making a decision to be as present as possible in the moment that you are in? To notice, if you find yourself rushing to the next moment (even if only in your mind) that you are missing out on what is happening now. There is a line in a song by Green Day that I love, “Its something unpredictable, but in the end it’s right, I hope you have the time of your life!”…and that time is right now…this moment…this is your life….don’t miss it.
The video below is so incredible. It is a slow motion video (captured by a security camera) of an owl flying directly at the camera. It is 59 seconds long and you will be very glad that you watched it. (thank you Sally for sending it!)