I emailed someone yesterday and as soon as I hit “send” I realized that I had addressed them by the wrong name. I felt a flood of negative emotion and caught myself thinking, “She is going to think that you don’t care about her, that her email was unimportant, that you are a care-less person.” These kind of self-critical thoughts always produce bad feelings in the body.
As soon as I realized my mistake, I sent an apology, and then said to myself, “That has to be good enough” and I spent the next few minutes thinking about the email being received with humor and grace. This wasn’t that easy to do. A vision of it being rejected or frowned upon kept trying to creep in. A little while later, I received a lovely, gracious email back basically saying, “No problem. Don’t give it another thought.”
Sometimes people will say, “I just started feeling bad, or down, or discouraged, for no reason.” But there is always a reason. There is always a thought behind a negative feeling, it’s just that we are so unaware of the constant mental chatter that is going on all of the time (and much of it negative), it seems feelings come and go without our having anything to do with them.
It sounds like such a little thing. Even with some distance on it, it feels like a little thing as I write, but it is the small changes; the catching of negative mental thoughts and images, and the changing of them from what we fear will happen, to what we would like to see, that makes big differences in our outer lives.
“It is our inner conversations which make tomorrow’s fact. Stop all of the old mechanical negative inner talking and start a new positive and constructive inner speech from premises of fulfilled desire. Inner speech calls events into existence.” Neville Goddard