The other day, Jack and I were having a conversation (well really, I was talking and he was listening) about the family that I grew up in. I started to say something like, “You know how hard it has been for me, not ever really feeling accepted…” I stopped myself mid-sentence and said out loud, “This is an old habit. I get along well with the majority of my family members don’t I?” Jack shook his head yes.
When I’m not feeling great, I have noticed that a lot of the conversations in my head center around not being understood, or liked, or appreciated by others. I’m the one, that is not appreciating myself, but because I’m not aware of it, I think that I’m surrounded by others who feel this way. It sounds so pitiful to say out loud, much less to put in writing, but recognizing, catching, and changing these thoughts, and useless mental conversations, is the most important thing that we can do to change our lives for the better.
“Man has a peculiar, strange feeling, a little affection for the feeling of being unwanted or being hurt, and he likes to talk about it. Try to get out of this habitual state.” Neville Goddard, from his lecture, “Three Propositions”