I was reading Debra Saum’s blog yesterday and was impressed by the way she worked with a behaviour issue with her cat Felix, resolving it in such peaceful way. Although this might not seem to have anything to do with my mother, the connection jumped out at me. For years, my mother talked about what she didn’t like in several of her relationships. She’d spend hours dissecting the reasons why she thought they did this or that, how difficult the relationships were….and they didn’t get better.
I had just finished reading Debra’s blog when my mother called and said, “I have decided that it doesn’t matter why anyone in my life behaves the way they do. From now on I’m just going to enjoy their company and look for what I like about them.” She’d just had lunch with one of these friends and said it was the best time she’d had with her in years.
“Sometimes finding solutions is more important than understanding the problem”. Debra Saum
The link to Debra’s wonderful blog (and her website) is below.