A couple of months ago, I was invited to a gathering of some old friends. This involved a fair amount of travel on my end, but I was still excited to go. One of the women, whom I had always felt a little uncomfortable around, was co-hosting the party, and little by little, I found myself focusing more on her, and less on the others, so as the event got closer, I began feeling apprehension about it. I was trying to imagine what conversation I could have with her so I could appear to be friendly (all the while thinking “I’ll just keep my distance”).
If I’m trying to keep my distance, from anything or anyone, then I’m not clear about myself. Either I need to change my thought or my plan because otherwise, I’m entering the situation with a mixed vibration.
When I realized this, I started to consciously turn it around, imagining seeing her and giving her a big hug. I tried to feel the happiness from both of us, on being together again for the first time in years. Driving there, I had a happy expectation and was actually looking forward to seeing her. When I arrived and was saying hi to everyone, before I could ask where she was, someone said that she had not been able to make it.
This is one spiritual lesson that I have learned. If I am dreading something, and I don’t change my energy, I will line up with something “dreadful”. It takes a fair amount of work to really change feelings. I can easily see myself hugging someone, but if my feelings about it are not matching the action, then I’ll get a response that shows me my true belief.
There is just no way to fool the Law of Attraction. Like energy attracts like, but if I really change my feelings from dread, fear or worry to a more loving, open, happy and relaxed, attitude, then if the person that I have been thinking about is not in a good place, we will not line up and one of us won’t be there.
“When people come to see us, we foolishly prattle, lest we be inhospitable. But things said for conversation are chalk eggs. Don’t say things. What you are stands over you the while, and thunders so that I cannot hear what you say to the contrary”. Ralph Waldo Emerson (from “Social Aims”)