About 15 years ago, I was going through a particularly rough time and while visiting a friend in California he said, “You need to see Robert. He is an amazing healer.” I was open to trying almost anything and so I did. Robert was in his late 70’s, living in a very small, unimpressive apartment and didn’t look like he was in all that great shape himself (as I recall, he wasn’t able to stand up to greet me). I sat in a chair and he waved his hands this way and that, and chanted something under his breath. I can’t remember how long I was there, but as I got up to leave the most wonderful feeling came over me. It was as if I was bathed in a peaceful, warm light, inside and out.
I left feeling like a different person. I was relaxed, calm and felt an inner joy that I hadn’t felt in so long that I couldn’t remember. But the next day, as I went through my day, the feeling subsided and within a short time, I was back to feeling the old anxieties and worries. I so wished that I lived near Robert and even thought about moving to California to see if I could work for him in exchange for sessions, but that didn’t pan out and in retrospect, I’m glad it didn’t. Robert had learned how to focus his mind for the good of others, but the piece that was missing was my mind and my thoughts. Although there was no doubt that I felt better, I was also feeling like he did it and that was subtly disempowering.
It was my mind that created, through negative, worried thought, the conditions of my life and no person, place or thing on the outside of me could heal that in a lasting way. I can receive temporary help (and many times that help will be enough to get me to a better feeling place so I can really work on my own thought life) but if I don’t change my dominant pattern of thought and belief, I will end up back where I started.
When we become aware that our thoughts are creating the conditions of our lives, then we are empowered to change from within, and can celebrate and embrace all the help that comes from others instead of feeling dependent in a disempowered way. We are here to help each other by sharing our unique gifts and strengths; never to make another dependent on us, but always to help others become aware of the Divine within themselves.
“Only the truth of who you are, if realized, will set you free.”Eckhart Tolle