I stopped by to visit some friends last week, who live in a spiritual community. It was fairly chilly inside their tiny space (which was set apart from the main house) but they all had on warm sweaters and said that they’d be turning the central heat on around Thanksgiving. Until then, they’d use space heaters and dress warmly. Living in a community means that decisions are made by the group, not by individuals, and while this is the perfect choice for them, it wouldn’t be for me.
I came home with a new gratitude for my warm house, not because I felt that their way was wrong, but because I had been taking heat (and the ability to turn it on when I wanted) for granted and suddenly, I saw it as a gift.
It’s human nature to want to change things on the outside so we can feel happier. Even for those of us who know better, we can still harbor secret thoughts that if only______would happen, life would be better. But it is never that way.
What can I love and appreciate about where I am right now?, is a question that opens our hearts (and doorways of opportunity that we hadn’t previously seen) and it is the perfect mental state to bring us to the new place also.
“Neither a promotion, losing weight, finding a soul mate, writing a book, nor becoming a millionaire, will ensure happiness. Nothing ensures happiness. No destination is great enough. No dream come true will do. Because happiness that’s not present at the start of a journey will not be present at its end“. Mike Dooley, “Notes from the Universe”