One thing that I need to be always aware of, is the tendency to look for what is wrong. I find myself petting the cats, and using it as an opportunity to check them for ticks, see if their ears are clean, and scan their furry little bodies for signs of trouble. This is just a bad habit, but wow is it a big one for me. I’ve justified it by saying, “I might as well do two things at once.” But it isn’t true. Petting, appreciating and lovingly gazing at the animals (or at human beings for that matter) is a very different energetic activity from looking for what is defective, inadequate, insufficient, potential trouble, or disease.
My mother was a nurse, and I can remember her doing this with us; always pointing out a pimple, uncombed hair or some other untidy little “defect” that she picked up…..and she looked at herself with the same critical eyes. I wish I could say that I didn’t do this with my sons, but that wouldn’t be true. I didn’t become aware of this trait until they were grown and gone.
So I am working on changing this today. Today, I choose to look for what is right, perfect and lovely, both in myself and in all other beings.
“There is no physician like cheerful thought for dissipating the ills of the body….To live continually in thoughts of ill will, cynicism , suspicion, and envy is to be confined in a self-made prison hole. But to think well of all, to be cheerful with all, to patiently learn to find the good in all, such thoughts are the very portals of heaven; and to dwell day by day in thoughts of peace toward every creature will bring abounding peace to the possessor.” James Allen (from As A Man Thinketh, 1903)