The other day I placed an order (for a gift) on-line. I checked the “gift wrap” option, but when the confirmation email came it was marked as no gift wrap. I emailed them right back and received a standard response that they would try to get back to me within 24-48 hrs. “Oh no!” I thought, “It will have been shipped unwrapped if they don’t read this email sooner!” I tried calling customer service and found that they were “experiencing an unusual volume of calls” and I was put on hold. I waited for what seemed like ages, hung up and tried again.
After another 10 minutes of being on hold, I checked in with myself and found that I was tense and a little worried. I had imagined the package arriving un-gift wrapped and at that moment, my mind made this little tiny thing into a crisis that had to be immediately solved by me.
I hadn’t cleared my energy before contacting them, and as I sat waiting, I felt the tension building within, so I hung up the phone and said to myself, “This is no big deal. I’ll put it down until I am in a better state.” I then began to make myself a cup of tea and felt much more relaxed. What had seemed like a mini-emergency a few minutes earlier, now just felt like a preference.
The egoic mind tends to escalate things. It makes everything into a problem, a crisis, an issue, and it commands us (and warns us) to pay attention to it, and to be alarmed by thoughts like, “This is awful, This is unacceptable, This is an outrage, This is serious….” (on and on with fear-based reasons why we must take action NOW!)
As I sat and waited for my tea-water to boil, feeling that wonderful inner calm, I had the idea, “Call them back but instead of pushing the “Inquiring about an order already placed” option, hit the option for, “Placing an order”. Sure enough, I dialed and within 10 seconds a very nice woman answered and even though she couldn’t fix the issue, she put me through to someone who could, and an easy, pleasant correction was made.
A high-level solution was presented to me when my mind was in a higher energy state.
This is such a silly, small example of a “crisis” but my life used to be made up of these little stories (that became habitual, stressed out living where anything that didn’t go my way was turned into a problem). So now, when I catch myself engaged in this kind of thinking, I try to nip it in the bud, not criticise myself, but just to notice what I’m doing and change myself before I try to change anything on the outside.
“If your mind is clear, you can walk out the door right now, with no friends, no job, no family, no money, no anything, and live absolutely happily. You can’t not have abundance in paradise. In the stillness beyond belief, everything is known: where to go, what to do, when. All of it. The way I live is that I don’t ever have to know anything again, not ever.” Byron Katie from Question Your Thinking, Change The World