I was walking into the store a few days ago, and a very frantic sounding dog caught my ear. I turned quickly to see a couple of men racing around a dusty lot on 4-wheelers. I also noticed a little pit bull chained up, and aggressively barking at them. Instantly, a preconceived notion about pit-bull owners dropped into my mind. It wasn’t a happy story either. It was full of judgement, and it was there as soon as I glimpsed the scene. It was a story about what kind of people the owners were, how they treated their animals, and kids, and where they worked, or didn’t.
As I shopped, I made myself drop the “story of their lives” (as told by Mary Muncil’s all-seeing self) from my mind. Leaving the store, I looked over at the lot, but didn’t hear the dog because she was sitting on the back of one of the 4-wheelers happily riding with her owner. And he was driving slow. And he had a blanket on the back. And he was holding her gently, lovingly.
I’m so glad that my story was wrong. All of my stories (when they are full of judgement and labels and neat little boxes) are wrong,…and they are small, tight, and limited. One thing that I’ve noticed about myself and others is this: The more judgements we have about what is right and what is wrong, the more we think that we know the way it is, the less of life we are allowing ourselves to really see.
Being wrong (and embracing it) truly is one of the best-kept secrets. It is a magical feeling to be able to say, “I was completely wrong about that!” I believe that it is also one of the portals into our expanded selves…into our Divine consciousness. Every time that I get to witness one of my own judgements, I also feel I’m given the opportunity to drop it. …what an incredible gift. Every time I see my more limited self, right under the surface, is a whole new world ready to open up to me.
It might be fun today to see how many times you judge someone or something and when you notice this, to say to yourself, “Ah ha! An opportunity for more Life just peeked its head up. I think I’ll take it!”
“Always admit when you’re wrong. You’ll save thousands in therapy…and a few friendships too.” Harvey Fierstein