Yesterday, I ran into a woman I’ve known for a few years, as I was leaving the grocery store. She seemed a little off and I didn’t think much of it, but as I was saying goodbye, she sighed and said that she was discouraged about some debt that felt like it would never be paid off. I then asked the unconscious question, “How long before it will be paid off?” She looked totally deflated at this question, and her reaction pulled me up sharply.
At that moment I caught myself. I know this woman. We’ve had quite a few deep discussions and she generally has a very expanded view of life (spiritually speaking), she’d just temporarily forgotten this, and I wasn’t helping. The next words that came to me were, “There is no debt in Divine Mind. It is done now.” With those words, she broke into a huge smile, grabbed me and said, “Oh, thank you so much! That was just what I needed to hear.”
Not everyone can hear those words. If someone isn’t ready to hear them, or isn’t aware that there is a larger dimension to their lives; one that is infinitely and intimately connected to the field of All Good, All Wisdom, All Abundance, then a comment like that can be dismissed or actually cause more confusion.
All of us who are consciously on the spiritual path (we are all on a spiritual path, whether we know this or not) have experienced many situations like this. We hear someone say something that is self-defeating or actually getting in the way of what they want as a life experience, we hear their limiting beliefs being voiced, and always the choice comes up whether to respond or not. Over the years I have become more discerning about when to offer a different perspective and when to keep silent.
I am still learning, and the interesting thing is, the more that I know , the less I tend to say. I’ve learned from experience that many people are not asking for my input…for whatever reason. And when I try to give it, and it isn’t wanted, the exchange is not satisfying for either of us. I’ve also learned that when someone does want my input they tend not to give up. They ask either directly or indirectly (by not leaving) for something more.
I try not to have a rote response to life. I don’t care for mindless words/concepts whether they are, “You need to think positively about this!” or “To be a good friend, you always have to be a good listener.” With every conversation, it is my intention to show up and feel what is being asked of me (from the larger part of me); the part that always knows what to do in every situation. The part that can be of the most service to others, because it isn’t locked into a concept of what a spiritual person should do or say. It is free to act or speak when the time is right….it is the authentic self and when I let it move and direct me (my thoughts, words and actions) the result is always perfect.
“Wisdom is not communicable. The wisdom which a wise man tries to communicate always sounds foolish. . . . Knowledge can be communicated but not wisdom. One can find it, live it, be fortified by it, do wonders through it, but one cannot communicate and teach it”. Hesse, Hermann. Siddhartha. New York: Bantam, 1971, pp 142