Several years ago, I had an appointment that I was running late for. I raced around and finally arrived on time but a little breathless. I sat in the waiting area for 45 minutes. When the person, who I’d come to see, came out of her office to greet me, she didn’t offer one word of explanation or apology. …as a matter of fact, she acted like she was slightly annoyed to see me. The thoughts that began running through my mind were, “She doesn’t think my time is valuable. She is inconsiderate.” I felt angry and exasperated and thought maybe I wouldn’t see her anymore.
But when I really looked at my own thoughts, it was clear that I was the one who didn’t value my time and was being inconsiderate,…not to her, but to myself. If I truly valued my time would I waste it in resentful, angry thoughts? If I truly thought my life was precious, would I knowingly consent to filling myself with life-draining, victimizing thoughts that as a by-product shoot all sorts of destructive chemicals into my body, weakening my immune system and draining me of my energy? No. ….but that was exactly what I was doing.
Once I realized it, I began to say thank you, in my mind, to this woman who had given me the opportunity to see myself clearly and dislodge (if I chose) old, victim thoughts. Suddenly she said, “I am so sorry about being late today….” and she asked if I had some time to talk about something going on in her life.
No matter how many times it happens, I am always a little surprised at how perfectly the world reflects my state of mind and my beliefs about myself….and how simple it is to change, once I really see what’s happening, and decide I want a happier life.
“The world is your perception of it. Inside and outside always match; they’re reflections of each other. The world is the mirror image of your mind. If you experience chaos and confusion inside, your external world has to reflect that. You have to see what you believe, because you are the confused thinker looking out and seeing yourself. You’re the interpreter of everything,….even if Jesus, even if the Buddha, were standing in front of you and speaking, you’d only hear confused words, because confusion would be the listener“. Byron Katie from , Question Your Thinking, Change the World