I did end up having a wonderful time at the thrift store on Monday…here’s what happened. Because it had been closed for 3 weeks, it was packed with shoppers who, just like me, had missed their thrift-store-fix, and the unfriendly woman was working. But what I noticed, since so many people were shopping and checking out ahead of me, was that this woman treated everyone about the same.
And she wasn’t really that unfriendly, she just seemed somewhat arrogant and unhappy. When I had the opportunity to observe her (without taking it personally), I began to wonder why I had dreaded interacting with her so much. The question, “Is this how you are projecting yourself to the world sometimes Mary?” came up, and the answer was “Yes, sometimes.” My next thought was, “Good to know.” I know enough now, not to beat myself up, or do tons of critical self-analysis. Noticing….and being easy with myself, is enough.
As I stood in the very long line to check out, another volunteer came out from the back room, and gently motioned to me to move out of the line. She then whispered, “I’ll check you out right here so you don’t have to wait all day.” It was so easy.
This is what I have come to see; if I am easy with myself, and easy around others, the world will respond in kind.
“I’m a mirror. If you’re cool with me, I’m cool with you, and the exchange starts. What you see is what you reflect. If you don’t like what you see, then you’ve done something. If I’m standoffish, that’s because you are.” Jay Z