Jack and I watched the first season of the British T.V. show, Derek (starring Ricky Gervais), last week. I hadn’t heard of it before Netflix sent a notice that it was now available for streaming, but what made me want to give it a try was the description of the main character. It said, “Derek always looks for the good in every situation”. We did give it a try, and we loved it. It is funny and deeply moving. I was telling a friend (who watches a lot of tv) about it and before I even finished he said, “I don’t like British humor.” End of story.
I wanted to say, “It is so much more than that! It is about love and life and kindness.” But he didn’t want to hear anything more about it.
How many times have I labeled things as unappealing/unacceptable and by doing so, missed out?
One of our favorite little restaurants (a place that serves comfort food, at a great price, with friendly owners and staff that have been there forever) is a sports bar/restaurant in North Bennington, VT. When I first met Jack he wanted to take me there for dinner, but as we drove up to the place I was very turned off. I remember thinking, “This is a sports bar. I’m not eating here.” And I didn’t. For 5 years I stayed away. I judged it (without ever going inside) as noisy, crass and tacky.
One day, I changed (opened) my mind and decided to give it a try. We’ve been loyal customers ever since.
I could fill a book with examples of where I have been wrong (limited) in my thinking about people, places, and experiences, and to be completely honest, I could probably fill two books with examples of where I have followed my intuitive knowing and have been rewarded with a rich and lovely outcome.
If I left my decision-making and actions up to my conscious/egoic mind, I’d probably never go anywhere; I’d be too suspicious. The egoic mind bases all of its decisions and reasoning on the past and many times, on an unhappy past (and of course it is the one making up, and framing, the past so it fits into a small, neat mold). It is afraid of the new so it tells us that it won’t be good, it is dangerous, or at the very least unappealing and a waste of time.
I am not putting down the conscious mind. It has its place, its very important place, as a servant of the larger, intuitive mind, which must be felt at a deep level, and which never explains,… it only points the way to more life.
“Intuition will tell the thinking mind where to look next.” Jonas Salk