I recently found out that I am going to be a grandmother. The happiness that I felt when my son and daughter-in-law told me, was not unexpected. I was (and am) thrilled at the thought of having a grandchild, and being a part of his or her life. What did surprise me though (as I’ve thought about this over the past month and a half) is how un-opinionated I am about things like names, what they will feed the baby, and the choices that they will make regarding day-care, education, recreation, etc.
Everyone who has known me for very long, also knows that I’ve had pretty strong opinions about many things. And yet, as I watch myself lately, I can see the edges blur on these hard and fast ideas. I’ve begun to experience myself more as a being traveling through this earth-plane experience in order to wake up, lighten up, and grow in wisdom. I don’t take my body so seriously, am not so concerned about what I eat, how I exercise (or not), what I accomplish in terms of “success” in the world. The outer life doesn’t hypnotize me into believing that it is SO important, like it used to.
What I’ve felt about this baby, this perfect spiritual being that is coming into this world of form, is that he or she is coming for a reason, that Tom and Lindsay are the perfect parents (although of course not “perfect” in the sense of never making mistakes) for him or her, and the choices that they make for their baby, will be a part of the perfect plan. These thoughts have been the ones that have surprised me.
If you had asked me even 5 years ago what it would be like to be a grandmother, my biggest concern would’ve been that I would be biting my lip most of the time to keep my opinions to myself, and not become over-bearing. That fear would have been the result of thinking that I knew better, knew more than they did, and more than the Divine Design (for each being’s life) does.
I don’t believe that anymore.
Each life is an adventure in discovery. No person can plan a perfect life for another. We cannot protect anyone from having ups and downs, failures, hard times, deep and painful questioning of life. No amount of organic food, fresh air, exercise, opportunity, education, or attention, can give any being a pain-free and happy life. I know that Tom and Lindsay will do everything possible to give this baby a wonderful home and he or she will still have the adventure of a lifetime, which will include some joy-filled and harrowing times for everyone.
I’m glad to be going along for the ride. I’m glad not to be in the driver’s seat, or to be a back-seat driver, chirping out commands and directions at every turn. I’m glad that I don’t even want to do this. I’m not sure what my role will be, not quite sure how I will fit into the picture of this person’s life, but I am ready to be led….and this is perfect.
“The recipe for perpetual ignorance is: Be satisfied with your opinions and content with your knowledge.” Elbert Hubbard