In high school, I briefly dated a boy named Reid. I don’t remember one thing that we did together, or conversation that we had, but I do remember that he wore a certain men’s cologne which made me weak in the knees. There was such a strong association in my mind between this scent and him, that for years, every time I ran into someone wearing it, I could close my eyes and be right back in time: 17 years old and madly in love…but this wasn’t a particularly happy memory; it was one of unrequited love.
Scent has always been able to transport me to another time/place/feeling, and so now, I work with this energy. Recently I spent several days with good friends whom I hadn’t seen in years. Driving home, I stopped by a lovely shop and bought a candle. The name of the scent is, Black Figue and Chypre, and it is deep, rich, and sweet. As I stood in the shop, breathing in its fragrance, I was also crystallizing a memory; a good memory filled with love.
One thing that helps me feel connected to the field of Love is to surround myself with things that have positive memory associated with them. For Valentine’s Day this year, I ordered another of these candles from Nordstrom. I love ordering from them; even seeing the box come in the mail is a happy experience for me. It is a little extravagant and that is part of the fun. When I was checking out, they had an offer to pick out 3 free perfume samples. It won’t matter to me whether I like any of these or not. I had a blast choosing.
There are ways to bring wonder and delight back into our lives; little things that we can do for ourselves to remind us that we are here on an adventure of discovery…here to learn about Love. This week, think about doing some nice little thing for yourself. Have fun. Be fun. Create a new memory.
“One of the easiest ways to shift just about anyone’s mood (for better or for worse) is through stimulation of their nose. If you are overly sensitive, life in the real world can be unbearable. Capitalizing on our noses to shift ourselves back into the present moment is easy. Light a scented candle and let vanilla, rose or almond lift you up beyond your recollections of stress.” pg 163 from My Stroke of Insight by Jill Bolte Taylor