I’ve known, for such a long time, that no matter what happens in my life, it all ultimately comes back to me and to my perception of any given situation. But sometimes this just ticks me off. It really means that there is never anyone to blame, …but there are times that I would really like to blame “them”, damn it!
For years, I felt that if someone treated me in a way that was less-than I would’ve liked, I secretly (or openly) blamed them for being inconsiderate, mean, unconscious, or whatever else I could think of that would take the focus off myself. As I began to awaken to a higher consciousness, I realized that thinking an unloving thought was not helpful. Criticising, condemning, and judging, ultimately didn’t make me feel better, so I tried to “love them”. This flipped me from thinking/feeling, “they are wrong” to “I am wrong for feeling this way. I need to be more loving….damn it!” Blame them or blame myself…it was the same trap.
What I didn’t know was that self-love (or the lack thereof) was really at the root of the situation/conflict. I didn’t know that I couldn’t even begin to love another when I was sinking in self-hatred, doubt, and loathing.
Eventually, I began to see that every time an unpleasant situation arose, it was a signal from my higher-self for more love, more self-love, and I found that when I remembered this, the situation and my feelings about it changed. Quickly.
It is futile to try to get others to love me. They might be in a bad mood and say something hurtful, and if I either believe them or blame them, I’m stuck in their (temporarily unhappy) version of life or of me. There is a better way.
I ran into a woman the other day who gave me such a dirty look that I felt my whole body pull back as if I had been hit. My first reaction was, “What did I do?”…this thought did not make me feel better.
A few minutes after I saw her, I thought, “This situation calls for more love. More self-love”, and I began to tell myself how much I appreciated who I was in this lifetime. As I sat there, quietly contemplating my finer qualities, I felt peace flood though me, a peace that I can still feel when I think of that moment.
Today is a wonderful day to let go of the old, worn out concepts of yourself. Today is the day to begin to feel who you really are; a magnificent point of God-consciousness…the incarnation of Love itself.
“The concept of self-love is not easy to grasp, but think about it in terms of vibration and resonance: without your own positive vibration, you will be unable to help others vibrate. Simply put, it is impossible to love another unless you can first love yourself. Let me give you an example of what I mean. Let’s say that there’s a 440-hertz tuning fork. If it’s just standing there, there’s not enough vibration to be audible by the human ear. But if you sing ‘Ah!’ at this level the tuning fork will begin to vibrate. By sharing your vibration, you have restored the tuning fork–you have brought it back to life through an act of sharing.
In this case, we might even say that the act of singing ‘Ah’ is a loving act. Each one of us has an important responsibility to give love in the way only a human can….But to give energy to the world around us, we must first have the energy within you. You can’t give someone something that you don’t already have. So to have love in your life, begin by respecting, appreciating and caring for yourself.” pg 101-102 The Miracle of Water by Masaru Emoto