The other day I was having a conversation with a woman about “Acceptance of our lives (and our pasts) vs. using our minds and focused thought to create”. She was rather animated, almost upset, as she said, “Your approach sounds like denial to me. I don’t agree with trying to change our lives. I believe that we should accept all of our lives, past and present.”
And I belive that we should accept all of our lives too, but anytime we are upset about anything, we are, in that moment, not accepting it. We might be resigned, angry, agitated, disgusted, or in despair about it, but this is not the same as acceptance. True acceptance brings deep peace. True acceptance is filled with light and an understanding that often times cannot be put into words. True acceptance feels like Grace.
When we think of our pasts in only one way, it is like staring at only one facet of a infinitely-faceted gem, and usually that one facet doesn’t feel very good. We then call that one tiny facet “reality”. Total reality. It is not. Everything that has happened to us, or to anyone, is mult-faceted, but so often we don’t know how to approach it (the memory) in any other way than the one we have thought about, told as an unhappy story, tried to forget, or ignored.
When we use our focused thought to re-enter a situation (that we have, up until now, only seen as unhappy) and see it as we would have liked it to have been, we are not in denial, we are giving it a little room to breath, and I believe we are inviting the Presence of Grace to illuminate our minds and our inner sight; the part of us that knows all is now, and always has been, well. How do we know when we are there? We feel it, and it feels like Love, Grace, inner peace, the divine,
“‘By your words you are justified and by your words you are condemned.’ Every day, choose the right words: the right thoughts. The Imaging faculty is the creative faculty: ‘Out of the imaginations of the heart come the issues of life.'” from The Secret Door of Success (1940) by Florence Scovel Shinn