Last Thursday, I thought about buying a new car. I’ve contemplated getting another car for a while, but when I stopped at a dealership a year ago, the salesman wasn’t encouraging about my trade-in options. I remember his face as he looked at my car, and I thought he was thinking, “What a mess.” He ran the numbers and basically said, “No”. I drove away from that dealership feeling like I had no choice but to pay off my current car and then look for another…some day.
But I also had another thought about that experience. I was the one thinking that my car was a mess. I was the one feeling like I had no options but to keep paying on something that I didn’t even like. I felt upset that the salesman seemed to be looking at me negatively, but on that day, I was the one who was looking at myself as somewhat of a mess…and I saw my mind mirrored back to me in energetic perfection.
Nothing about that visit felt right. I felt off and I lined up with someone who was a perfect match to that. Thank god I didn’t push it. This path was clearly a closed-door. This was the path of NO (or at least “NOT NOW”).
Last Friday I cleaned out my car really well, and as Jack and I drove to Albany to attend the opening of his art show, I asked him to stop at a Subaru dealership. Silently, I prayed, “If a new car is not in the highest and best for me, roadblock it*.” I had no feeling of desperation. As a matter of fact, my thought was, “The worst that can happen is that I drive home in a very clean car with a $20 Starbucks gift card” (they were offering these as incentives to test drive a car). Everything about this trip felt easy. My current car was valued at quite a bit more than I expected, I’d wanted a white car and there was one in Pearl White…we drove home from Jack’s show that evening in my new Subaru Crosstrek.
The “Roadblock Prayer”* is one of the most helpful spiritual tools that I have ever used. Many years ago, I was working as a volunteer for the Norman Vincent Peale Prayer Line, and the director (at that time) was the one who first told me about it.
Sometimes we make commitments, or say yes to something, that we’re not totally comfortable doing, and aren’t sure if we should cancel, or go forward with it. It’s hard to tell, when our minds are full of doubt, conflicting desires, and old fears, if a certain path is the best one for us to take. This is the time when the roadblock prayer is so helpful. Basically it says, “I am turning this entire situation over to a Higher Intelligence. I cannot figure out the best course and I feel confused when I try to. I am going to move forward with the plan (whatever it may be) but if it is not in the highest and best good, then I give You (Spirit/God/Universal Energy that is within me and everything else) full permission to roadblock it, and I will now drop the struggle from my mind.”
The wording is not important, but the intention is. I have to be ready to really let go of the mental debate (and my plan) and turn the current dilemma/situation/decision over to the part of me (the Divine Self) that always knows the best course to take. After I’ve said this prayer, I drop the issue from my mind and refuse to entertain it again.
When things are “right” for us, they flow. We might need to push through old fears, but the situation will not feel like a struggle. When things are in the highest and best for us (and we drop our mental anguish, worry, fretting, and struggle) all we need to do is say YES to the idea and then YES to the action that is presented. When things are right for us, we walk on a path of opening doors. It is also true that it sometimes takes all the courage we can muster to step foot on that path, but the YES path is clear, harmonious, and it feels like an open door….because it is.
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.” Joseph Campbell
* The “Roadblock Prayer” has been such a helpful tool in my life. If what I have written is at all confusing or you would like me to say a little bit more about it, please let me know, and I’ll be happy to talk more about it. It is equally true that after the action has taken place (if the path has been one of opening doors and harmony), second-guessing our decision is just another way to mentally torture ourselves. If it happened like it was meant to be then trust that guidance.