the experience of saying yes

Three weeks ago I decided to say yes to whatever was asked of me…for one month. It has been a life-changing decision. One of the things that has surprised me the most is how saying yes, has relieved me of the burden of my over-analytical mind, and simultaneously freed up time.

I used to be a big fan of saying that I’d pray about something, turn it over, see if I got any direction in my dreams, blah, blah, blah, before I would commit to saying yes. I hadn’t realized how much I was stalling Life and putting It off.

Saying yes has freed up something inside of me. I have a new enthusiasm for simply getting up in the morning. I literally can’t wait to see what will be asked of me; what new thing, that I couldn’t even have imagined, will show up.

When I first wrote about saying yes, four people recommended the book, The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer, so in the spirit of saying yes, I put in my request at our local library. I thought that I’d open it, read a few pages and return it the same day, having fulfilled my obligation to say yes. Luckily (and I don’t believe in luck) Jack picked it up for me while I was out of town and he began reading it…and he couldn’t put it down…. then he asked if he could read it to me. I said yes. I had the same reaction to the book: I didn’t want it to end.

This began our week of taking every opportunity we could to drive and read…I drove and he read. We’ve visited galleries, cafes, museums, and Indian grocery stores, all in distant places, so we could do this and it has been a magical experience.

Several days ago, someone asked me if I thought I’d continue this practice after my month was over and my immediate thought was, “I am only just beginning this…I am a novice, I am being taught by life something so exquisitely simple yet profoundly life-changing, why would I ever go back to the prison of thinking I knew better than Life?”

I’d love to hear your experience, if this is something that you are doing and I am also open to any questions that you might have.

“oh brother!” new mixed media assemblage (available on My Artwork Page)
Turn of the century wooden dried fruit box with 1900s cigar box (threads showing where lid was removed) mounted inside. Back of cigar box has map from 1950s book, “My Father’s Dragon”. 1850s ambrotype of brothers (looking very unhappy) attached to vintage child’s block and then attached to wooden box. 1940s insert to military binoculars underneath.
This assemblage, on the outside reminds me of all of the things that boys (and all people!) get into, but the faces on these boys really seem to spell trouble…and yet what is inside?…of them…of us all? With this thought in mind, I asked my sons and other men whom I respect, to give me words that represent “brother”. I then printed these words onto old school paper and lined the inside of the binoculars with these strips that say: loyal   bond   faithful   trouble   fun   friend   adventure   love  protect  respect   trust   cracking up  support   helpful   home  family  encourage   inspire.
At the back of the binocular inserts are small mirrors, which beckon us to always look for the good inside of us (no matter what is happening on the outside). Needless to say, I had a lot of fun creating this piece.

8 thoughts on “the experience of saying yes”

  1. I LOVED reading about yours and Jack’s experience — especially the “not being able to put the book down.” I understand the desire to just keep on reading and reading. One would not think of this as an exciting book, but it sure as heck is. And it is even an instructive book without being preachy. You just want to get to his next experience….just as you are now eager for your next experience(s).

    I look forward to re-reading this post more times — especially the part about over analyzing and praying and waiting for a sign, etc.

    I’ll betcha that this topic will bring some interesting comments.

  2. Mary, this is fun but I’m not sure of being a convert, I have been anal about controlling my life after it went out of control in 1972 when my first husband died and my life went spinning completely ‘out of control’. I plan to ask the library for both Michael Singer’s books and thanks to others and you for recommending it. It’s good to see you in my inbox again.
    Sandy Proudfoot, Canada.

  3. LOVE this Mary, just ordered my copy- YESSSSSS! xoKim

    When spring came, even the false spring, there were no problems except where to be happiest. – Ernest Hemingway When spring came, even the false spring, there were no problems except where to be happiest.” —Ernest Hemingway


  4. Several months ago….despite all my previous objections for over forty years…..I said yes to Jesus Christ as my living Lord and Savior…..

  5. I’ve been aware of this “Sating Yes” idea for a few years and it has ibrugued me, but only because Saying No was fairly new to me. Recently I’ve gotten a spate of dubious Friend requests on FB. Each time I hit Delete, I wonder if I were on a saying yes path, could I still delete them?

    I am intrigued by the book, however. Thank you. And congratulations on finding this path. It does sound joyful

  6. Love reading about your experiences saying yes to life. I felt the same way about Micheal’s book. Couldn’t put it down. Have re-read many parts. You’ll love Untethered Soul. I keep multiple copies around to give out. Priceless. My life has gotten so much happier since I started saying yes. It has led me to wonderful places. I sometimes slip back into my old ways but I’m very aware of the difference and the fact that it doesn’t serve me anymore. What a relief. It recently led me to the eating plan I’ve been looking for all my life. Needless to say I feel happier and more peaceful than I’ve ever felt in my life. Check out Danette May. Wonderful short meditations that will transform your life! She’s all about the love….for yourself! It is a beautiful day and I am moving forward! 🙂

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