I trust me and I trust you too

 

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Yes Opens the Door

I begin most days by asking myself the question, “What would you have me do today?” I rarely get an immediate answer, but just asking the question seems to open me up to the guidance, direction, and opportunities, that are beyond my reasoning mind. When I ask this question of myself, I am also showing active faith that such guidance is available…and that it will be for my highest good.

Faith is such a “charged” word. For many years, it conjured up images of devout, humorless, strict, narrow-minded, people following religious teachings to the letter. The “faith” of my upbringing didn’t allow for internal guidance. It basically said, “Follow this set of rules and you might have a chance (probably not though since you are basically a sinner) of redeeming yourself if you suffer enough, deny any and all desires, and do what you are told by religious authorities who know more than you do.” This definition of faith was also what I believed (unconsciously) God was.

As I write these words, I feel a sense of wonder that I was able to leave that old concept of faith behind and begin the journey of spiritual awakening…a journey that taught me how to trust and myself…how to listen to my inner voice…how to have faith in the larger part of me: the divine, connected, dynamic, fantastic, creative, bursting with Life, joyful, wondrous part of Being that I am…that you are…that we all are. It doesn’t matter to me what anyone calls this power: God, Universal Energy, Love,The Unknowable, Goodness. It doesn’t matter to me what I call it. I have faith in it as me. I have faith in it as you. I have faith in it as us.

So back to my initial question, “What would you have me do today?” The answer this morning was to offer a give-away of a 20-minute session** with me. If this is something that speaks to you, just write a comment about faith and what it means to you. I will choose a random winner on January 22nd. This give-away is open to all who read this. You don’t need to be a subscriber to the blog or a new client of mine. All are welcome to participate.

“The voice within is what I honor. It’s what I’m married to. This life doesn’t belong to me. The voice says, ‘Do the dishes’….okay. I don’t know what it’s for, I just do it. If I don’t follow the order, that’s all right too. But this is a game about where life will take me when I do follow. There’s nothing more exciting than to say yes to such a wild thing. I don’t have anything to lose. I can afford to be a fool. What fun is it to be God if I can’t get a glimpse of myself in the mirror? And whether I like it or not, that’s what I am…” pg 117 from A Thousand Names for Joy, Living in Harmony with the Way Things Are, by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell.

*this little painting is available on MY ARWORK PAGE

**you can read more about the work that I do on my page, Private Sessions

 

This entry was posted on January 18, 2016. 36 Comments

Happy surprises to you!

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Christmas Day breakfast…I don’t think that I ate more than three bites, but who cares when you are sharing a meal (literally) with those you love!

This past Christmas Eve, Jack and I decided to take Griffin (our one and a half year old grandson) out for the morning. It was almost 70 degrees here in the northeast, so we were able to stroll around the small, Vermont, town of Vergennes, without jackets or boots….lovely.

Keeping up with Griffin is an adventure. He loves to run which is OK on grass but not on cement sidewalks, so to make him happy, Jack took his right hand and I took his left, and we began to jog up the sidewalk. Griffin alternated between running and dragging his feet, but we were all having a great time.

When we finally reached the car to go home, I noticed a man standing nearby staring at us. I smiled and said hi to him, but he scowled back at me and said, “I’m glad that you finally picked up that baby. He was very tired.” I couldn’t get my mind around what he meant, but as I was hooking Griffin into his car seat, it dawned on me that the man thought that Jack and I had been making Griffin run, and he wasn’t happy about it. And who could blame him? If that were the case, then it would have been awful. I too would have been upset to see anyone dragging a baby along.

But that wasn’t what was happening.

The three of us were having a great time, and this man, for whatever reason, was having a terrible time watching us. I sat there a minute before driving away and noticed that the man’s face looked hard. I could just tell that no matter what I said, he wouldn’t believe that reality was anything but what he was sure he had witnessed.

Over the past few days, I’ve thought about this incident a lot. I could feel that it was a lesson for me. How many times have I been 100% sure that my unhappy story about something (anything) was correct? How many times was I willing to stay in pain to defend my own unpleasant version of an encounter? Probably too many times to count…but I also know that this is changing, because when I do find myself thinking unhappy, miserable, angry, or sad thoughts, something inside me now says, “That is only one way of looking at this. This is happening for you…if you look for the good, the gold, the Truth, you will see that.” It is such a happy surprise to find that our minds can change and we can see with new eyes the good that is all around us. May 2016 be filled with happy surprises for you! Love, Mary

“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” Anais Nin

 

 

This entry was posted on December 29, 2015. 10 Comments

The light of the world

a photo sent to me by a friend

I opened my emails this morning and was greeted by the photograph above. It needs no words, but it so beautifully dovetailed with the thought that I’d had very early today as I sat outside, that I felt I must say something. The thought that came to me was, “You never know how your life helps others. This is by design. If you knew, you’d become self-conscious and you might try harder to be a ‘good person’. Don’t worry about being good or spiritual or any of that.  Today, shine the light that is inside you and notice how your every need is taken care of. And say thank you.”

So simple…really.

Be the love that you are. Give that love away freely. Allow the love (that is also you) to return to you from others. Notice the good. Share the good. Tell the good stories of hope and miracles and second (third, forth, tenth) chances. Be the light of the world.

“Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” Leonard Cohen

 

This entry was posted on December 22, 2015. 19 Comments

A downward spiral…and then an upward one

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detail from a new painting, Winter Wonder, available on my artwork page

Several days ago, I received a letter from the bank notifying me of an issue  with my on-line account. I was very tired, and a little irritable, when I opened it, but I didn’t stop to center myself before phoning them. The call was a disaster. The woman who answered the phone was unfriendly and unhelpful. She actually told me that I had withdrawn a fairly large sum of money on a certain date. When I told her that I hadn’t, she said, “You must have.” So I asked to speak to the manager, but was informed that he wouldn’t be back until the following week.

The phone call ended with no resolution but my level of frustration had escalated.

Usually, when I am feeling off, I know enough not to make phone calls or to try to resolve “issues” with anyone…but not on this day. What I did next was to return a call to the dealership where I’d just purchased my car. They said that they needed a certain document signed (which was overlooked at the initial purchase) and that they had sent me a copy to sign. As I looked the document over, I didn’t understand one paragraph and asked the man to explain it to me. He said, “No one has ever asked me this before. Can’t you just sign it?” When I said that I’d like an explanation, he replied, “So you aren’t going to cooperate with us?”

For about 10 seconds, I couldn’t even respond. That conversation did not end well.

Then Jack called to say that he’d just had a very unpleasant talk with our home owner’s insurance company who said they hadn’t received our last 3 payments (all of which had been sent on time) so they were canceling our policy.

I sat in my chair wondering what was going on. It felt like the Muncil/Metzger household had been plunged into Dante’s 5th circle of hell.

In that moment, I realized that there was something I needed to do. I hung up the phone and said out loud, “Help me”, and then I closed my eyes and imagined all of this paperwork being lovingly picked up by the hands of Spirit. Within 5 minutes the phone rang. It was a bank manager who quickly sorted out the mishap. I thanked him, hung up the phone, and said out loud, “Thank you”.

The next morning, I was tempted to call the car dealership back to resolve the unsigned document issue, but as I picked up the form, I immediately put it down again and imagined my hands blessing it. Several minutes later, a manager from the car dealership called me. Everything was explained and resolved in 2 minutes.

As I thought about this day, it was clear that my reactions were the cause of all of my pain. Had I taken the time to center and calm myself before making that first call, I know that it would have gone differently. As challenging as it is to admit, both of those unpleasant people mirrored my inner feelings/mind pretty accurately. But what is equally important to remember is that as soon as I asked my higher self for help, the help appeared…first in the form of a calmer, less frantic, inner self, and then with people who actually could help me.

As these brilliant words from the literature of AA remind us, ” We learned that if we were seriously disturbed, our first need was to quiet that disturbance, regardless of who or what we thought caused it.“* This is such a good thing to remember. The world is my mirror. When I strike out in anger or frustration or try to resolve anything from a mind that is filled with frustration and worry, I am bound to create more of the same.

It is so good to remember that before we do anything we can ask for help…and we can rest assured that it will be there.

 

 

 

*page 47 Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of AA

 

 

 

 

This entry was posted on December 12, 2015. 15 Comments

A “groovy” day…. (and an opening for sessions today)

Luke on the porch of Jack's store

Luke on the porch of Jack’s store

I recently attended a family function and found that in the days leading up to the gathering, my mind tended to replay scenes from the past…and a few of these were not pleasant. I realized that I was imagining myself feeling uncomfortable and ill-at-ease. As I noticed this, I wondered why I was (yet again!) imagining something that I didn’t want, so I changed it. I began to see myself as happy, peaceful, and open. I held that vision while at the same time imagining hugging someone who, in the past, has not been very “huggable”…at least to me. As I held these new visions, my thought/prayer was simply, “I want to be open to whoever needs me”, and at the same time, I realized that I needed to be open to taking care of myself, which really meant just being present.

Even though I’d been feeling somewhat under the weather, I felt very calm during the day and smiled inside when the person who I’d imagined hugging, greeted me with a loving embrace…something that had never happened before.

Every time I use my mind in this way, I feel as though I am changing my world; making a new groove in my brain… a new groove in reality is a better way to put it. It is as if I’m laying down new tracks and I want to notice and share this because as I do, it reinforces a truth that I always know (in my head) and want to always know in my heart.

‘We are perceivers. We are an awareness: we are not objects; we have no solidity. We are boundless. The world of objects and solidity is a way of making our passage on earth convenient. It is only a description that was created to help us. We, or rather our reason, forget that the description is only a description and thus we entrap the totality of ourselves in a vicious circle from which we rarely emerge in our lifetime.’ Put another way, there is no reality above and beyond that created by the integration of all consciousness, and the holographic universe can potentially be sculpted in virtually limitless ways by the mind.” (quote taken from the book, The Holographic Universe, by Michael Talbot, page 160)

 

Today unexpectedly opened up and so I am opening it up to you if you’d like to schedule a phone session with me. I’m offering 20 minute sessions for $20 (or longer is also possible). You can read more about the work that I do on the tab at the top of my home page PRIVATE SESSIONS or below. Feel free to email me at mmuncil@verizon.net if you’d like to set up a time to talk.

What a session with me is like:

My primary intention when working together is to see the whole you; the person that you would like to be, and to hold that vision. In a session (whether in person or by phone) I am “listening” to your words, your energetic field, and to Spirit, for what can be changed or re-directed (and also for what you are doing right but may not be noticing) so that a shift into a more positive life experience, can occur. When we change on the inside (either by dropping limiting beliefs or expanding our awareness of Life) our “outside” world must change too.

The biggest difference between the work that I do, and traditional counseling, is that in a session, we spend very little time trying to figure out the past. I’ve found that although “issues” need to be talked about, dwelling on them, and spending a lot of time trying to understand why things happened, or why we are reacting the way that we are, can just keep us stuck there (we may ultimately understand the problem better, but we still have it). So in a session, we use the past as a base or springboard to move from, into the life that you would like to be living.

I sometimes offer suggestions for affirmations, based on what I see and feel, and if you are open to it, I give “assignments” to work on after our session is over. I come to every session intending an uplifting, growing and expanding experience for you, with the ultimate goal of helping you to open up to more inner peace, happiness, abundance, and self-love.

Life is meant to be an exciting adventure. Life is meant to be good, and it is my greatest joy to assist others on this journey of Self-discovery: the journey past the small, limited, sometimes fearful self, and into who we really are as points of Divine Consciousness (our true Selves).

PRIVATE SESSIONS WITH ME :

If you would like to set up a session, you can contact me at: mmuncil@verizon.net and I will get back to you with available times. When you email, please specify if you are interested in a half hour or hour session time, what time zone you live in, what country you live in, and which days of the week (and times of day) in general, are good with you.

Session options:

1.  1/2 hour session (30 minutes) $35.00

2.  1 hour session (60 minutes) $60.00

I accept payment by Pay Pal (or personal check if we have had a previous appointment)

I have studied at Harvard Divinity school, was ordained as an interfaith minister by The New Seminary in NYC, conducted retreats for deepening connection with the spirit, completed a year of Shamanic work and a vision quest for women in the mountains of New Mexico, studied and completed advanced training in EFT, and worked for 17 years with people in 12 step recovery programs**. I am currently on the board of The League of Vermont Writers, and I am committed to encouraging as many people as possible, to open up their lives to the adventure of creation through writing.

**I must add here that the work that I do comes from a place beyond any training or knowledge that I gained at schools. Since I was a little girl, I “saw inside” others: I could see where they were hiding from themselves, and saw the greatness too. This work (which truly is not work to me) is what I am meant to do in this lifetime. It is why I am here.

 

This entry was posted on November 29, 2015. 6 Comments

Life: An in-the-moment adventure.

Eleanor napping on top of a cat toy

Eleanor napping on top of the Turbo-scratcher cat toy

I hardly ever let Jack choose the route when we take a trip. My history with Jack and trips is that he inevitably chooses the longest route possible. He likes to take roads that get you to your destination eventually. I generally choose the shortest distance between 2 points. The other night I was tired and for some reason, I let him pick the route. About half-way home (one and a half hours into a normally two-hour and fifteen minute trip) I began to feel an old familiar feeling toward him: irritation.

We stopped at a gas station and while he was inside buying water, I let my head flop onto the steering wheel and sighed “I am dreading this trip home.” But the thought that immediately followed was, “Why? Why are you doing anything in the spirit of dread?” I didn’t have a good answer except that it was a habit to feel annoyed when things didn’t unfold in the way that I would have planned them or done them. The next question that I asked myself was, “Can you look forward to the rest of this trip?” As I pondered this question, I can’t say that I suddenly felt happy anticipation, but my irritation eased up and surprisingly, I felt less tired. So I then said, “We will get home at the perfect time” and I felt happier.

Within 3 minutes Jack was back at the car handing me a treat that he’d picked out, and I was feeling good. I never said a word to him about this, so he’ll be surprised when he reads it tonight.

Dreading anything is a dreadful thing to do to ourselves. What is dread, really? It is fear. Fear that things won’t go the way we want them to go. Fear that our plan (which of course we think is the best plan) won’t be realized, or we’ll be harmed in some way. But as I sat in my car dreading the rest of that trip, I was the one hurting myself. It wasn’t getting home later than I’d hoped that caused me pain, it was my thought that it was somehow wrong.

 No matter what we are going through, we all have the ability to embrace it. It might sound insane to say, “I am looking forward to a colonoscopy” or “I am looking forward to being unemployed” or saying that we look forward any other thing that society tells us we should dread. But why? Why do it? Why dread things that we are expected to dread? If you watch very young children, you’ll notice that they have a natural curiosity about everything. They look at life as though it is an in-the-moment adventure. Could we do that too? Could we look forward to everything that life presents and refuse to call anything (that we need to do, or that has been handed to us) bad or wrong?

At the very least, it is fun to try. So, take something, anything, right now, that you are dreading and begin to say, “I am looking forward to it”, and watch what happens….allow yourself to be like a little child; full of wonder and full of trust.

 

I still have a few skin balms available from the batch I made several weeks ago. If you are interested in purchasing any, they are $8.95 each

I still have a few skin balms available from the batch I made several weeks ago. They are $8.95 each. You can let me know by email, mmuncil@verizon.net if you are interested in purchasing any and I’ll get right back to you.

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This entry was posted on November 21, 2015. 19 Comments

more about the Roadblock Prayer and Mary’s Skin Survival Balm offer

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I am finally in the process of making a small batch of my skin salve (Mary’s Skin Survival Balm).  It will be ready around mid-November. I have tried to get back to everyone who wanted to be notified when I was making more, but if I missed you, I am so sorry. Please email me at mmuncil@verizon.net if you’d like to reserve some. They are $8.95 each (shipping charges are simply what the post office charges me…usually about $3 for one or 2 but if you’d like a shipping estimate,  let me know in your email request).

the label with ingredients of my skin salve

the label with ingredients of my skin salve

Another crucial part of the Roadblock prayer is the timing of it. This isn’t a prayer to use when you have not made a decision. The essence of this prayer is motion and the assumption that we have moved forward. If you cannot get an internal feel for what direction to take, then ask for the guidance first. Ask for a clear lead. Your inner self always knows which direction to take, even when your conscious mind is confused. So ask for direction and when that guidance comes, and you are ready to move forward, if you feel uncertainty, this is the time for the prayer

This entry was posted on October 29, 2015. 3 Comments