We’ve got it backwards!

I spent a good part of this weekend, going over relationships from my past and casting them in a new light. The most interesting and difficult visualization was imagining that my former mother-in-law and I were talking about what we appreciated in each other.  It took a while to even be able to see her…

letting go of the old

This past September, we decided not to host the family Christmas Eve party any longer. Even though it was a relief, I wondered if I would regret this decision....wondered what the holidays would feel like this year. Would there be an emptiness? Several days ago, a friend gave me the gift of 3 magnificent old…

Getting out of the driver’s seat

I wrote the post about my hair yesterday (thank you, thank you, thank you for all of the wonderful, supportive comments. I read them slowly this morning before I started to write and appreciate every one!) and then left for the entire day to take my mother up north to the town where she grew…

YE HA to Life!

I was driving into the post office, here in Cambridge NY, yesterday and a car pulled in right before me with the license plate, "YE HA". I was so curious to see who would get out of this car; who would have chosen such a great affirmation of life to drive around with. How can…

Trusting the Good

My mother called yesterday afternoon asked me to bring her back the book that she loaned me a few weeks ago (the book that she said she didn't want back). I said, "Mom, I loaned that book to someone. You said that you didn't want it back." She replied, "Oh, I never said that! Never…

Embracing imperfection, letting go of fear

If you have read any of my previous blogs you may have discovered that I am not a good speller...even with "spell check" those words do slip through; like loose and lose..... yesterday's blog. When I was in graduate school, I lived part-time with a wonderful woman in her 80's who used to run a…