feeling clear

It took me many years to finally understand the difference between a gut feeling (intuitive guidance) and my feelings. I can remember hearing spiritual teachers talk about this and it sounded like semantics to me; feeling, feelings? Then one day it became clear. I was dating a man who wasn't the best choice for me.…

being and doing

When I first moved to Cambridge, I worked as a cook for a community of nuns. I'd always thought of myself as a pretty good cook, but had never done it professionally. Even though I'd enjoyed cooking (somewhat) over the years, I agonized over every meal that I prepared for the nuns. I always doubted…

best friends

For many years, I was friends with a woman who was funny, smart and interesting. She was also extremely critical.  I never quite knew when this critical part of her would come out. It might be after having a nice lunch, or talk on the phone, but several days later, I'd receive a letter or…