I’ve come unglued…finally!

I used to believe that I was the glue that held things together…. especially when it came to relationships. If I hadn’t contacted someone in what I thought was a reasonable length of time, I would feel guilty and immediately take action in the form of a phone call, email (once upon a time this…

reframing the day

Jack and I decided to go on one of our favorite hikes yesterday. It was supposed to be 75 degrees and sunny and we both wanted to be outside. We packed our treats; English breakfast tea for me, strong coffee for Jack, thinking how much we’d enjoy them at the summit. As we got closer…

Child-like behavior

I attended a large event last weekend, and as I sat in the audience, watching the speakers address the honoree of the evening, I began to observe the hugs that were exchanged after each person spoke, and before they returned to their seats. Each one talked about their special relationship to the woman who was…

What’s not wrong?

A few days ago, something happened to a family member several hours away, and I found myself suspending previously made plans and making new ones (in consultation with other people). I also became acutely aware of  a lot of intense emotion and action around me. I closed my eyes and kept repeating, "This is for…

A game of hide and seek

In Thich Nhat Hanh's book, You Are Here, he talks about birth and death in a way that feels whole... and sane. Even the words, "Life and death are just a game of hide and seek" are so foreign-sounding to many of us (who have been raised with the concept that death is a tragedy)…

Being…. present

We watched a movie Saturday night called, The Departure. At one point the main character said about his deceased father, "Is this all there is to show for his life? A couple of boxes?" This made me ask myself, "What do I have to show for my life?" The more that I wake up spiritually,…

The existence of happiness

Years ago, I was taking a 6-week class that focused on prosperity. One of the women in the class (who always seemed angry at something or someone) shared that before she became aware of the power of words, she used to say, "All I need in life is a roll of toilet paper and a…

Little moments of Grace

When I first got sober, I worked very closely with a woman who'd been in AA for 5 years. She was a mentor (in the anonymous programs this person is called a sponsor). My husband and I had just bought a home, and were in the process of moving from married student housing at the…

the power of belief

At some point in my life, I started to believe that I wasn't any good with plants. I don't remember how it began, but it ended up with me not having any house plants at all. If offered one, I'd politely refuse it saying that the cats ate them. If I received one as a…

What will my intuition toss up to me today?!

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote that Gordon Ramsay was coming to our little town (Cambridge NY) to film an episode of his new series, Hotel Hell. I also wrote that I didn't have any interest in watching it, which was true. During the buildup to the show, the town was buzzing with energy.…